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What Healthy Couples do Differently
For this week’s edition of Food for Thought, we’re diving into what sets healthy couples apart — and how small daily habits can make a big difference.
When couples seek therapy, they often come in with common concerns: “We’re stuck in autopilot,” “We just can’t communicate,” or “Everything turns into an argument.” One of the most important things we share with couples early on in this: it’s less an about what you’re fighting about; it’s more about how you’re fighting about it.
So then, what do healthy couples do differently?
They repair quickly. They know how to recognize when they’re spiraling and take steps to de-escalate. They don’t avoid conflict — but they also don’t weaponize it. They pause, reflect, and return to one another with curiosity instead of criticism.
They prioritize emotional connection, even in small ways. A quick “thinking of you” text. Eye contact at the end of a long day. A willingness to sit in silence together. These moments may seem simple, but they’re how connection is maintained day after day.
They express appreciation often. Not just for the grand gestures, but for the everyday efforts: “Thanks for picking up dinner,” or “I really appreciate how patient you were with the kids today.” Gratitude becomes part of the culture of their relationship.
They also give one another the benefit of the doubt. They assume good intentions. They ask questions before assigning blame. And perhaps most importantly, they recognize that maintaining a healthy relationship isn’t a one-time achievement — it’s a daily practice.
Therapy helps couples build these skills. You don’t have to already be “healthy” to get support. You just need to be willing to learn, grow, and show up — even when it’s uncomfortable.